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The Value of Writerly Friends

Ladies_StockSnap_pixabayWriting is a solitary adventure. Writers spin tales inside their heads, then spend hours pouring their stories onto the page … alone. But there comes a time in every writer’s life when they need people. They need a hug. They need encouragement. They need a friend who truly understands.

Writers need writerly friends. 

I’m writing my second book. I have a good foundation for this story, but at the end of chapter three, I froze. I had just finished a massive edit of my first book and I was paralyzed by the fear of writing a book that needed so much rewriting. I would start and stop, start and stop, thinking everything I wrote would have to be deleted and rewritten.

I don’t want to have to do that! But I need to write, especially when I’m supposed to take ten pages to my critique group.

I belong to a fabulous critique group that meets every other week. We share chapters/scenes and discuss them … the good and the bad. This week I had nothing to bring because I choked while trying to write. I was embarrassed. Writers write and I hadn’t written anything in two whole weeks! I didn’t go because I was so embarrassed.

I forced myself to go. I forced myself to be honest with the group and share my frustrations and my fears. And you know what? These ladies hugged me. They shared their own stories of fear, of writer’s block, of frustration. They prayed over me and then we brainstormed possibilities for where the story could go.

These writerly friends lifted me out of the pit of writer despair, and I left with a sense of peace and hope.

Friends, hope is such a powerful thing and gives life to the soul. 

Writerly friends – those people who think like you, daydream like you, talk to imaginary friends like you – these are the people you need to surround yourself with on this writing journey. They are the ones who will encourage you on the road that God leads you on. They will pick you up when you fall, and they will speak hope into your dark days.

There’s nothing more valuable (besides the good Lord) than writerly friends. I know I’m thankful for mine!

Do you have a writerly friend(s)? Do you have support on your writing journey?

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17 thoughts on “The Value of Writerly Friends”

  1. Good morning! What a great topic!
    I’ve been writing for 20 years and would have quit had it not been for writerly friends. It’s a cliche, yet no man is an island. It’s so important to be around people who encourage each other. Write on, sister!
    ~ Yvonne Weers

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    1. Yvonne, 20 years is a long time and it’s so encouraging to know there is joy in the journey. I’m excited to see where the Lord leads you on this journey! (Now back to writing!)


  2. Sherrinda, this is a good post. I’m so thankful for my critique partners. I had one for 20 years and have had the second one for two years. I can vent and be vulnerable before her. I can also vent and be vulnerable on here and on Seekerville, the two sites I visit the most. We’ve All Been There. I listen to multi-published authors and they’ve been through the same slumps and frustrations. With the Christian publishing field in flux, we do need each other because each success is a success for all. A rising tide lifts the metaphorical boats!
    Kathy Bailey

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    1. Kathy! YES!!!! I love how you said, “each success is a success for all”. What a beautiful way to put it. I love the online friends, like you, that I have made. Praying for good things to come for you!


    1. Patricia, how wonderful that you have a beautiful critique group too! It makes such a huge difference in the writing life. Thanks for stopping by!


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